BURNOUT
“Across studies, 8 out of 10 working moms are suffering from burnout and only a small percentage are seeking help. ”
Burnout is an severe epidemic affecting millions of moms. It’s a debilitating condition that goes beyond mere stress or fatigue. It impacts every aspect of your life, from your career and relationships to your physical and mental health. As a high-achieving midlife mom, you face unique pressures and responsibilities that can intensify the effects of burnout. It’s crucial to recognize the signs early and seek help before the damage becomes irreversible.
What is Burnout?
Burnout is a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress. It occurs when you feel overwhelmed, emotionally drained, and unable to meet constant demands. Over time, this stress can lead to serious health issues if not addressed.
Symptoms of Burnout
1. Physical and Emotional Exhaustion
Chronic Fatigue: Persistent tiredness that doesn’t improve with rest.
Insomnia: Difficulty falling or staying asleep despite feeling exhausted.
Physical Symptoms: Frequent headaches, muscle pain, and gastrointestinal issues.
2. Detachment and Cynicism
Isolation: Withdrawal from responsibilities and social interactions.
Pessimism: Developing a negative, cynical outlook on life and work.
Irritability: Increased frustration and short temper with colleagues, family, and friends.
3. Reduced Performance and Productivity
Lack of Concentration: Difficulty focusing and staying on task.
Decreased Efficiency: Reduced ability to perform tasks effectively.
Procrastination: Avoidance of responsibilities and tasks.
4. Emotional Signs
Feelings of Failure: Heightened self-doubt and sense of inadequacy.
Hopelessness: Feeling trapped and unable to see a positive outcome.
Loss of Motivation: Lack of interest in activities you once enjoyed.
5. Behavioral Changes
Avoidance: Reluctance to engage in social activities or work.
Substance Use: Increased reliance on alcohol, food, or other substances to cope.
Neglect of Responsibilities: Inability to keep up with personal and professional obligations.
6. Cognitive Difficulties
Memory Problems: Forgetfulness and trouble remembering important details.
Decision-Making: Struggling to make decisions or solve problems.
Mental Block: Feeling mentally stuck or unable to think clearly.
7. Health Issues
Lowered Immunity: Frequent illnesses due to a weakened immune system.
Chronic Conditions: Increased risk of developing chronic health issues, such as heart disease or depression.
Weight Changes: Significant weight gain or loss due to changes in eating habits.
“The scary thing about burnout is that you often don’t know how bad it is until you start to come out of it.”
Dr. Cynthia’s Three Stage Model of Burnout
Dr. Cynthia Edwards-Hawver compares burnout to the rating system used in physical burns, which helps to illustrate the severity and progression of this condition. Understanding these stages can help you recognize where you are in the burnout process and the importance of seeking help now.
1. First Degree Burnout
Symptoms: Mild but persistent fatigue, occasional irritability, and difficulty focusing. You might feel overwhelmed but still able to manage daily tasks.
Action Needed: Early intervention is key. This stage is a warning sign that you need to take steps to reduce stress and improve self-care.
2. Second Degree Burnout
Symptoms: Chronic fatigue, increased cynicism, frequent headaches, and trouble sleeping. You might start withdrawing from social activities and feel a growing sense of hopelessness.
Action Needed: Immediate action is required. At this stage, burnout is significantly impacting your daily life and well-being. Professional support and more intensive self-care are necessary to prevent further deterioration.
3. Third Degree Burnout
Symptoms: Severe physical and emotional exhaustion, constant feelings of failure and self-doubt, and significant health issues such as depression or anxiety. You may feel completely unable to cope with daily tasks and responsibilities. You may be coping by self-medicating with alcohol or other substances. You may also have feelings of suicidal ideation as you may feel there is no light at the end of the tunnel.
Action Needed: This stage is critical. Without intervention, third-degree burnout can lead to severe health problems and long-term damage. Intensive therapeutic support is essential to begin recovery and restore your health. If you are feeling suicidal, contact the suicide crisis line by calling or texting 988 or click here